Category: Let's talk
I have noticed that there are alot of depressed members here, why is that, with me it's the after effects of a colossal mistake 16 years ago, that haunts me still.
I am not always depressed I just tend to bring myself down sometimes and that is because my parents always did. So yeah, that's the reason probably.
Thats very destructive and a hard habit to break.
I think it's my family that causes my often being depressed
ok even though i try and make the best of it it's losing my eye sight, can't find any thing good about it, frowning
hmmmm, i think for me is that i find it truely hard to relate to people. also my family, or lack there of, makes me depressed often. It's hard to live life everyday without one, and yet, still, for me, it is hard to actually deal with my friends who have happy ones. irrassional i know.
I'm usually not a depressed or unhappy person. This has been a pretty rough time in my life, especially the last couple of months, but that's no excuse to get on here acting all depressed. I'm usually not the whining type, bbut every once in a while, like pretty much everyone, i hit a low point. This is one of them, but I'll tell you people that I'm pretty much out of it, and that y'all should expect to see a more laid back and easy going vibe or ora or whatever y'all wanna call it from me. Anyway, take care and have a good one. Jimmyut everyon
Goblin, I agree, it is hard to break that habit. The only way I can break it is to go away from my parents after graduating from school. Far far away.
Insele the best way to overcome these people is to live well and succeed, could you legally divorce them it has been possible here in abuse cases.Galileo it's not irrational at all,and after all you have endured its hardly surprising. I'm the same it's a defence mechanisim.
No, but I will move out in three or four months so it might be better then.
Good it's the best option and you show em! Smile
Yes, indeed. Maybe they will miss me one day and regret how they treated me.
I hope they do, but if not, then it's their loss as they lack the capacity to admit their mistakes,in the end you will be the better person, as you are willing to do more than they are capable of.
That's what I think.
I wish more people thought so good luck and I mean it.
Thanks.
No problem. smile
i agree with you goblin, it's because of events that have happened in my life that have caused me to have what i have now. i don't spout about being depressed in quick notes, i just go to the boards and post it there, not everyone needs to know that i get depressed quite often.
Though I may be unhappy from time to time, I could never be depressed. I have clothes, food, and a roof over my head. Though life isn't always good, my life is better than the lives of many people in the developing world. I think that people in well-developed societies have it too good, and that's why they get depressed over things which if thought about rationally would cause them not to be depressed.
Hmm But if you post it in the boards then everyone here will know, still its better to release the feelings than suffer, I really get annoyed with those people who feel a bit down, and claim to be depressed, they should be given a dose of it for real.
what annoys me are people who don't think depression is a mental issue. they just think in all cases it's a person trying to get attention. in some cases, yes, it is, but in many cases it's not, and the people who just dismiss it make me mad.
Also some people think bringing myself down is a way to draw attention to me. But in my case, it really isn't. It's just the past comments of my parents.
I um know i have issues I get depressed but know i have it better than a lot of people and just look at it that way
I agree with both Jen and Lori. I have my ups and downs a hell of a lot. Like you Lori, I get depressed because of my family and the fact I'm having to live with them for now as I don't have enough money for a flat. I'd need another £27.000 before I had any hope of moving out of here for good.
Well, my parents would give me a bit money for a flat and I would accept it gladly. Cause they depress me too. "You are too fat to get a job." "You ar e too fat to get a boyfriend". Sometimes I could kill them. But only sometimes. Lol
Hmm listening to such ignorance and insecurity so could I..If you accept the offer, they would still have a hold over your life.... sometimes, though I hate to say it, you have to compromise.
The problem is Galileo ..ducking below the desk..that many people here rant and rave about minor issues as if they were a major disaster, these people have no idea of what true suffering is? Also when you point out this blatant attention seeking, everyone attacks you...they do not want to hear the truth.
Well at least for the start until I have my own money.
And if they demand that you must pay it back you reply with feeling I owe you nothing, you owe me more than you can ever repay!
Goblin, how can you possibly claim that you know what it's like to be depressed "for real" and whenever someone else is posting about their problems you attack them for being attention seaking and pathetic, a bit of a contradiction there isn't it?
That's the extent of that comment because I don't wish to turn this into an argument board, it's just so obvious that I had to point it out.
As for feeling down, well, best of luck with that guys. I, personally, am extremely happy these days (allergies aside) but I've had diffictul times, although never clincally depressed, and I know it takes a lot to get through them but, honestly, as a whole we're just so much better of than a lot of people and even if that does not make our plight any less painful sometimes it might help to think about it.
And, if it can be at all avoided, try not to bring yourselves down, do not start believing you're not worth anything because it's not true. Nobody is worth nothing, it's not the way the world works.
cheers
-B
Exactly, Goblin. This is what I will say to them then. *smiles*
As my brother would say gie em laldy which means let them have it.smile
well, i think that my little holiday did me a world of good, i feel a lot happier about myself, i think the times that get me down the most is when something tries to pull me back, a call from my mother is the most likely thing that can do it.
she's got this way about her that can pull me out of any kind of positive mood i'm in.
i think recognising that one suffers from depression is the biggest step one can take, recognising you have a problem is often harder than dealing with it afterwards.
Lui I am glad you have such a mother. I have a great friend who can help me out there but she has problems herself now.
Each one of us has our own cross to bare, but that doesn't mean it can't be expressed, and others shouldn't attack or assume because of such.
I agree.